“Grandpa”, “granny”, “grandfather”, and “granny” are often real accomplices for our children. Rather than educating their grandchildren, grandparents like to share their hobbies and their secrets.
Seniors being in much better health than their parents were at the same age, our children are fortunate to have a generation of active grandparents who often become confidants, almost “super friends”. And it’s a chance for the whole family!
Don’t try to manage everything
When the children are with their grandparents, the rules are often less strict than at home. Your child knows the difference very well, and it’s not because at grandpa’s “we have the right to hang out in pajamas in the morning” that all his good habits will have flown away back home. In fact, most of the time, the less you interfere, the better: after all, your parents (or in-laws) do what they want at home, as long as your child’s health does not suffer. And it is precise because they are relieved of education that grandparents can afford small deviations from the rules established the rest of the year. VS’
Finally, because they are less stressed and settled into a calmer rhythm of life, your child can often rest better at home!
A confidant like no other
Sometimes, the grandparent can become a privileged adult confidant and it’s a chance! He can even act as a moderator in the event of a conflict with your child.
Because they carry the past and the family history, grandparents “teach” their grandchildren family values (this last point is all the more important when you are separated from your spouse). They can tell them how you were at the same age: a child never gets tired of this kind of story which strengthens family ties a little more … Finally, what a pleasure for your parents or parents-in-law to feel useful and to be able to pass on a wealth of knowledge and a family tradition!
Your child is too isolated, what to do?
Just as you forbid yourself to interfere in their relationship, your parents (or in-laws) do not have to replace you, nor to tell you how to raise your children. If necessary, you can make a small “adjustment” (without getting angry) because the worst would be to settle your accounts through interposed children: conflicts with grandparents generate significant stress and you risk “cracking” your child by asking him to choose his “side”.
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